I was having a conversation with my male friends and for some reason, we started to talk about Friends With Benefits. Of course, they all turned on me asking if I would get involved in such a situation; I said no, they all just collectively asked why...and I told them that, the rules that come with Friends With Benefits (FWBs) are not going to do me any good, since I catch feelings easily, and I can't be going through all all that mess.
That conversation got me thinking about how we have changed as a people in our train of thoughts. How it has become so easy for us to want to have sex with our friends, and still be friends with them without any strings attached, nothing whatsoever.
For those of you who do not know what FWBs is, it is the situation where two people (friends) of the both sexes agree to have sex without any strings attached, no commitments whatsoever, and still see themselves as friends.
Why I do not do Friends With Benefits;
1. I care way too much, way too easily
I wear my heart on my sleeves and as such easily get hurt by people (my cousin says I should toughen up...whatever that means), and by now we all know that a FWBs requires that you have a heart made of steel, basically.
2. Jealousy
On a scale from one to ten, my jealousy level is at a 9.5. So no, I can't be in a FWBs type of situation. I'll be out there snatching wigs and weaves before I know it myself, just putting it out there.
3. I WILL love you at some point
Eventually, am gon wake up one morning and you would be on my mind. I will want to know what you will be having for breakfast, lunch, and supper. I will daydream about our wedding, and our house, and our children. At some point I will fall madly in love with you, which will lead to a heart break ( not about that life)
4. Rules! Rules!! Rules!!!
All the rules that come with being in FWBs, I can't follow. I am naturally a rule breaker...the idea of rules make me just want to break them, you know, just to see what will happen...the consequences. So all the rules in FWBs will not do much for me since it will just eventually lead to aches in a part of my system I'm still tryna fix. So no thanks!
5. Friendships.
I value my friendships way too much to want to jeopardise them over a few shags and moreover, should it not work out, I can't be the one having to start new friendships again (cos ain't nobody got time for that). Obviously, we would be having the same friends, and since I won't be able to stand being around you, naa, I'm good.
Lets just stay friends. No drama , No worries, No heartache!
Would you do Friends With Benefits?
xo
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